I just found out my husband had to do with sodomy when he was a kid.?

Aww that's sad. It could mean any kind of ual violation on behalf of his step dad. Don't bring this up, wait till your husband is ready to tell you. He may have a hard time with trust due to this and it is something that can be very emasculating for men. He may not want you to see him in that more vulnerable light for fear that you will judge him as a man. He kept it secret for some reason, and you knowing may make him feel strange because he doesn't want you to see any weaknesses in him since he is your husband and provider.